New Book Out Now!

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Our team at Winning At Home recently had a book come out that we’ve been working on around the topic of relationships between parents and their adult children. To guide the conversation, we created a short survey and asked two different age groups—one group was people in their 20s and 30s, and the other was people in their 50s and 60s—similar questions about what was hurting the cross-generational relationships, what each group wished the other group knew, and what they wished they could change about each other.

Based on those survey responses, we wrote a book aimed at helping to bridge that divide called Parents Vs. Adult Children: Finding Harmony Even When You Disagree. It available for purchase now through Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Books-A-Million. 

From the book’s introduction, here is an idea of what to expect and the perspective we’ll be addressing things from:

“The team from Winning At Home that wrote this book is made up of Dan, Dr. Peter Newhouse (WAH’s executive director and founder of our counseling centers), Alan Seaborn (Dan’s son, a pastor, and writer), and Steve Norman (a pastor and coach). In Dan’s travels, in each of our individual work, and in our counseling and coaching offices, we’re seeing the same things that you’re seeing. We’re seeing disagreements wreaking havoc on families, and this most commonly involves a divide between parents and their adult children. We want to offer this resource in an effort to help people navigate differences of opinion and belief with the ultimate goal of maintaining relationships.

We’ll wade into some controversial waters in this book, but we’re doing it carefully and intentionally. Our whole reason for talking about these things is to repair and strengthen relationships. We hope to remind everybody that, in moments of disagreement, both people involved in a relationship are human beings who have had different, valid experiences…we’re not trying to share trendy truth, but some solid guidance on how to navigate relationships in a time marked by conflict and disagreement.”

As our team has talked about the book with different people, we’ve noticed that the topic is sparking interest in a unique way. It seems that people are really looking for a way to navigate how to stay connected to loved ones even when they have disagreements on big topics. We dive into topics like communication, religion and politics, hopes for one another’s spiritual lives and personal growth, and what makes communication so hard. But we look at those topics with the goal of helping to bring healing and peace to these conversations…even if there is not full agreement between everybody involved! 

After the first draft of the book was finished, my son Alan and I were talking about how we felt about it overall and were looking at making any necessary changes. I said that I liked the flow of it and that I thought it was a good thing that the book overall seemed to favor the younger generation. Alan was pretty surprised at that comment and told me that he thought the book favored the older generation throughout. After we sat there confused for a few moments, we realized that it was a great sign that each of us were happy with the book even if we felt it didn’t push our preferred perspective as much as we’d hoped. 

It’s our hope that you can have similar conversations with your loved ones as the result of reading this book!