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6 Ways You're Unknowingly Hurting Your Wife

Do you attend to everything else and give your family leftover crumbs of your time? Are you always tired while interacting with your family because you spent all your energy out there? It hurts your wife deeply if she senses that your family is not among your top priorities.

4 Habits That Secretly Annoy Your Husband

It’s pretty safe to say every wife has habits that annoy her husband… and vice versa.Living together under the same roof for an extended amount of time can bring out the worst in any of us. After all, familiarity breeds contempt, they say, and after a while just breathing in the same room as your man can cause him to be annoyed if he hasn’t eaten, slept, or had his space in a while.Chances are he’s not talking about your behaviors that annoy him. Why would he load that gun? Why would he open that closet door?But if you could get a glimpse at some of the habits or behaviors you might not even realize you have, wouldn’t it be worth it to try to stop doing them and bring a little more peace and a lot more joy back to your relationship?While writing my book, When a Woman Inspires Her Husband, I interviewed husbands married anywhere from 5 to 50 years to find out what they needed most from their wives, what they loved most about their wives, and what made them roll their internal eyes or want to get some space from their wives. That last category they really want to talk with you about, but don’t how to safely bring it up. Perhaps after reading this list together, and sharing these items with him to see if he agrees, you’ll have the opportunity to let himknow which habits of his drive younuts.(But my guess is he already knows that. It’s not as if wives keep those things a secret!)For the sake of starting a healthy conversation between the two of you--or just giving you a mission to work on in secret--here are 4 habits that most likely secretly annoy your husband:Photo Credit: GettyImages/fizkes

8 Signs Your Marriage Needs You to Be Less Busy

It’s been said busyness is today’s badge of success. But it’s not necessarily a perk when it comes to your marriage.Despite the myriad of reasons you might need to slow down a bit, your spouse most likely needs you to be less busy, too, in order to take care of yourself, take care of what matters, and be available to your marriage and family.Whether it’s you or your spouse who needs to be less busy (and I’m guessing it’s both of you), we all could use ways to improve our marriage, family, and spiritual life which inevitably happens when we become less stressed. Here are 8 signs your marriage needs you to be less busy:Photo Credit: ©GettyImages/Prostock-Studio

4 Things Christian Marriage Requires of Us Beyond Love

I used to think all that was needed to ensure a healthy marriage was love. And then I got married and quickly realized as Don Henley and Patty Smyth sang in their 90’s hit song, “Baby, sometimes love just ain’t enough.” Love is our highest aim; it’s as the apostle Paul describes in I Corinthians 13, “the greatest of these.” So, I’m not negating the necessity for love in marriage, I’m challenging the notion that love is all you need to make a marriage thrive.The Beatles sang “All You Need is Love,” but interestingly, Paul McCartney has been married three times, and John Lennon was married twice. Before his death, he confessed to having more than 300 affairs while married to his first wife and multiple affairs while married to his second. If these are the people Americans look to as “idols,” it’s no wonder we have a faulty understanding of how love works in marriage.Love is foundational. It’s like flour to a cake. Your marriage rises and falls depending on how much love is present. However, just as a cake needs other essential ingredients to be palatable and sustainable, so does marriage.Photo Credit: ©Pexels/Nghia Trinh

4 Vital Ways to Strengthen Your Marriage against Satan’s Attacks

Before I got hitched, I used to hear church folk rehash the warning that the devil is after marriages. It left me wondering whether the devil wasn't being accorded more credit than he deserved. But now, having been knee-deep in marriage for 12 years, I get it. Totally. The enemy is indeed in hot pursuit after marriage. He will grab any chance he has to tear a marriage apart. He has a track record of stealing, killing, and destroying, after all.God ordained marriage to reflect the relationship between Christ and the Church. Paul asks wives to submit to their husbands as to the Lord whereas husbands are to love their wives just as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself for her. Marriage is also where God's instruction for man to multiply and fill the earth is fulfilled.The enemy doesn't take marriage lightly and will do all it takes to sabotage it. When he spots a loophole, he will use it as a launching pad for his attacks. Paul warns us against offering the devil a foothold:“In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,and do not give the devil a foothold.” (Ephesians 4:26-27)The Collins dictionary describes a foothold as a strong or favorable position from which further advances or progress may be made. We may be oblivious of the footholds lurking in our marriages but the devil is not. He is extremely swift at spotting them. He prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour (1 Peter 5:8).Here are some things you can do to seal the loopholes in your marriage.Photo Credit: ©Getty Images/dragana991

7 Essential Things the Bible Says about Sex in Marriage

Too often in our culture, the images and portrayals of sex that we see are unhealthy and not in alignment with God’s plan for sex. If we are not careful, we can put too much emphasis on these negative portrayals of sex and miss the beauty of the sexual relationship that God has designed for marriage.Whether you are married, dating, or single, it is crucial to have a proper and healthy view of sex. The truth is God is not a prude, nor is he uptight about talking about sex. He wants us to practice it within the bounds of marriage, which is how He designed it.To help you develop the right mindset about sex, it helps to understand what the Bible says about sex in marriage. Getting this right will go a long way in helping you develop a healthy sex life within your marriage if you are married or will get married, and it will help you understand God’s plan for his people even if you remain unmarried.Here are seven things the Bible says about sex in marriage:Photo Credit: © Getty Images/OJO_Images

What Is Sleep Divorce and Is it Biblical?

Is sleeping in separate spaces a sign of a relational break or just a pragmatic decision for more individual comfort? Let’s explore the potential consequences of this growing trend.

4 Signs You Have an Emotionally Abusive Husband

An emotionally abusive person may neglect your needs by withholding attention from you, such as giving the silent treatment and shutting down any form of communication. They might not support you or call you needy or emotional when you ask for support.

7 Marks of a Good Apology (and 8 Marks of a Bad One)

Repentance is an essential part of the Christian life, relational health, and maintaining an accurate view of the world. Repentance is when we quit trying to make our dysfunction “work” and embrace the life-giving alternative to our sin that God offers.When we direct repentance towards a person we have offended we often call it an apology. For this reason, Christians should be better at apologizing than anyone else.In the context of offense (when we are the offended party), it can be difficult to be objective about whether an apology is good or bad, healthy or unhealthy, genuine or obligatory. Motives are subjective and rarely all good or all bad.In this post, I pull from several previous posts and resources in order to try to identify the markers of a good (i.e., God-honoring) apology and markers of a bad apology (i.e., one that fails to accomplish God’s redemptive agenda after an offense). I hope these help us repent well when are the offending party and discern wisely when we are the offended party in a conflict.7 Marks of a Good ApologyKen Sande in Peacemaking for Families, his excellent book on conflict resolution, describes seven elements of repentance (bold text only). This outline is developed in the order that words of repentance would typically be spoken in conversation. Explanations and applications will be provided for each point.*This material is an abbreviated excerpt from the mentoring manual for the Creating a Gospel-Centered Marriage: Communication seminar (unit 5), so while in places it has a marital focus it is applicable to any relational context.Photo Credit:©Getty Images/dragana991

10 Ways to Avoid Crazy In-Law Interactions

In-law “horror” stories abound. I’ll be honest; I used to laugh at in-law jokes. But not anymore. I believe God can use in-law relationships to bless and encourage us, and also to rub off rough edges in our personalities. Looking at in-laws through Jesus’ eyes, I now hope for “honor” stories.Sometimes, in spite of doing all the right things, in-law relationships can fall apart. We cannot “fix” other people, but the Lord can change us and fix relationship messes in His own time and way. In the meantime, we can choose to love others—even the unlovable—as Jesus would.Given that disclaimer, there are powerful steps we can take to create healthy in-law interactions.
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